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Music as Medicine: 3 Ways Music Can Help Your Wellbeing

Posted by on Jun 13, 2017 in GoodTherapy | 0 comments

She was frustrated by her immobility and chronic pain. In her mind, she felt like she could simply stand up and walk wherever she wanted. But in reality, her body was stuck in a wheelchair. “I’m in a funk,” she declared in my clinic office. “I don’t want to do anything anymore.” This sort of conversation played on repeat week in and week out. I was feeling breezy one afternoon after one of my favorite songs played in my earbuds on my way back from lunch (which always spurs me to call my lifelong best friend and serenade her voicemail because she gets me). So that day I asked the frustrated woman in my office, “What’s your favorite music?” A small smile played on her...

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My Friend Had a Late-Term Abortion: 5 Things She Wants You To Know

Posted by on Jun 1, 2017 in GoodTherapy | Comments Off on My Friend Had a Late-Term Abortion: 5 Things She Wants You To Know

I was reflecting on a recent party we hosted and thought my friend Heather would enjoy a couple photos from the gathering. There was one of her chasing her toddler son around with a plate of food, another of her sipping from a wine glass full of grape juice. She was relaxed into her second trimester, answering all the usual questions from our guests: a boy, due in May, first trimester was uncomfortable but not terrible, totally different pregnancy from her first, totally excited. She joked about the whole “we’re pregnant vs. I’m pregnant” debate with her husband Jeff, who had stopped drinking and even gained “baby weight.” Her family used to live near us. They recently...

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3 Ways To Start Becoming Your Own Biggest Fan

Posted by on Apr 14, 2017 in GoodTherapy | Comments Off on 3 Ways To Start Becoming Your Own Biggest Fan

I have two toddler-aged kids. They regularly take my breath away with their often-unexpected highs and lows. But one thing I have noticed remains constant for both: They love themselves! My younger son smiles at himself in the mirror, kisses his own lips, and plays with his reflection. My daughter, a little older, admires whatever she is wearing, whether she is dressed up as Queen Elsa or Iron Man or showing off a wildly mismatched outfit she has put together herself. The radical idea here is we all started off that way. We are born into this world believing we are both entitled to everything we need and deserving of love, care, and attention. We inherently know we are...

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Comfort in Community: Finding Support in Unexpected Places

Posted by on Feb 16, 2017 in GoodTherapy | Comments Off on Comfort in Community: Finding Support in Unexpected Places

“She’s a little shy,” was our common refrain when someone asked our daughter a question and received no response. But we long suspected she was different. When our new-parent friends were excitedly talking about their baby’s first words, followed soon after by hilarious accounts of nonsensical word phases, eventually giving way to logical conversations they had with their kids, my daughter appeared generally unimpressed. My husband tried to comfort me by reminding me it’s okay that she is an introvert. Still, quiet conversations about what she was saying (or not saying) dominated our pillow talk for many nights. She was born with a life-threatening infection. While she...

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Is It Winter Blues or Major Depression?

Posted by on Dec 22, 2016 in GoodTherapy | Comments Off on Is It Winter Blues or Major Depression?

All people, at some point, experience one or more of the symptoms of depression. It is normal for our moods to cycle moderately while we balance demands at work and at home, while coping with short- or long-term illness, or when dealing with a loss such as a death or breakup. Mental health professionals also expect to see fluctuations a little more pronounced during the winter season. read...

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7 Steps to Building Emotional Resilience

Posted by on Aug 11, 2016 in GoodTherapy | Comments Off on 7 Steps to Building Emotional Resilience

Many of us spend a significant amount of time and effort on how we appear on the outside. We get haircuts; buy clothes, jewelry, and cosmetics; and even opt for expensive and painful medical procedures to maintain an image of youthful resilience. But what about our internal resilience? While physical appearance is important to many of us to varying degrees, our mental and emotional resilience may be a better predictor of health and quality of life in the long run. Since it is never too early to start making a concerted effort to build emotional resilience, here are seven ways you can begin to bolster your internal strength. 1. Spend Time with Positive People Have you...

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